3 R's to Cultivating Self-Love.

Some people may cringe when I speak of self-love. I used to as well. Others may wonder how we get to a place of self-love. Either way, you're in the right place. Here are 3 tips to cultivating self-love.

My self-love journey.

It was almost 10 years ago when I realized I didn't love myself. I was reflecting on what went wrong in my unhealthy relationships that I seemed to have before then (I didn't realize they were unhealthy at the time). The common denominator in them was...you guessed it: me. What a strong shot of honesty that I wasn't ready for. It was also very liberating because I felt like I might be able to do something about it. It took a ton of work and introspection, but I finally got to a place of self-love about 2 years after having the sobering realization. Here are 3 tips that helped me and I hope they help you just as much.

#1 Reflection

In a world where we are so busy being busy, reflection is not something that we are typically rewarded for.

Reflection is critical to cultivating self-love. Reflecting on your thoughts and writing them down can help you reflect on where you are and where you want to be. It can help to review your daily emotions of love and see the progress. Here's some tips on how to be reflective and introspective here.

#2 Resources

Tony Robbins has a quote, "It's not your lack of resources, it's your lack of resourcefulness." Many times it's easy to get ourselves mentally trapped in a corner and feeling like we have no where to go. There have been more times than I care to admit when I used to feel like that.

We are all not lacking resources, we are lacking resourcefulness. Instead of saying to ourselves, "I can't do this", we can say, "what resources can I utilize to solve this?" See how those two thoughts have different emotions?

When we can't find the answers, try asking a different question to get us tapped into the resources that we have around us.

#3 Respect

We can treat others with respect, but forget about ourselves. Why? Because we are sometimes led to believe that it's selfish to think about ourselves.

We need to love and respect ourselves first to give the very best to others. How can we practice self-love? We can go for a walk, workout, meditate, read or even tell ourselves reasons why we love ourselves (I know the last one sounds a bit crazy, but it works wonders). Now, go choose one of your favorite ways you can practice self-love and see yourself blossom into the person you were meant to be.

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Don't give up hope. If I can learn to love myself, so can you! You matter. ❤️